For men who are suffocating in their lives — and want to breathe again.
Body-first Clinical Counselling for burnout, midlife, and late-recognized ADHD.
Ben Weidman, MA, RCC · Registered Clinical Counsellor · Virtual across BC
I work primarily with men — and anyone who recognizes themselves in these words is welcome here.
The life you built…
You know — the one you thought you wanted.
There’s nothing obviously wrong. That’s part of what makes it hard to say out loud. Good work, people who count on you, a life that photographs well. And somewhere inside it, you went quiet.
Or maybe it’s not quiet at all. Maybe it’s coming apart loudly — the job, the marriage, the temper — and you’re watching yourself do it.
Either way, you’re tired in a way sleep doesn’t touch. The drive that built all of this has gone somewhere, and what’s left runs on obligation. Some nights a question surfaces, and you push it back down — because there’s no room in your day for what it would ask of you:
“Is this it?”
You’ve held it together so long that holding it together has become who you are. You can’t pretend to enjoy ignoring yourself anymore.
That’s usually when men find me.
I work with men who are...
Burned out — tired in a way rest doesn’t fix
Late-recognized ADHD — finally understanding why everything felt harder than it looked
Coming apart — the job, the marriage, the temper — loudly, and tired of pretending otherwise
At a midlife threshold — the old life doesn’t fit and the next one hasn’t arrived
Holding it all together — the caretaker, the fixer, the one everyone quietly counts on
Done with the scripts — asking what being a man actually means, on their own terms
Not their first therapist — they've done the work before; it didn't reach the thing underneath
Primarily men — and not exclusively. If you recognize yourself here, that’s what matters.
Body-first. Honest. Sometimes irreverent.
Most of the men I work with have already read the books. Insight isn’t the missing piece. What’s missing is being able to feel what’s actually happening in you — under the coping, under the performance — long enough for something to shift.
So we slow down. We work with the body, and with the parts of you that learned early to please, perform, and stay ahead of everyone’s needs. Not to fix you — there’s an intact core under all of it, and the work is clearing the way back to it.
I trained in clinical counselling and Buddhist psychology at Naropa, and I’ve spent decades sitting quietly with what’s underneath words. I’m not afraid of your anger or your grief. And I know this room from the inside — I didn’t come to this work by accident.
What happens in the room
Mostly, we talk — slower than you’re used to, with more attention to what your body is doing while you speak. Sometimes we laugh. The work is serious; we don’t have to be.
Some sessions are uncomfortable in the honest way — the kind of uncomfortable that means something real is finally moving.
What tends to change isn’t the life first. It’s your relationship with yourself inside it: more room in the chest, less performance, a clearer sense of what’s actually yours.
And then — further in — something most men have stopped expecting. The drive comes back, but it’s not the old drive; it runs on aliveness instead of obligation. Work you’re in love with, or the honest reckoning with work you’re not. An open heart that isn’t a liability. The sense that your life is for something — and the energy to live like it.
Not a better performance of your life. Your actual life, fully lived.
Sessions
Virtual, across British Columbia · 50 minutes · $200 CAD
Coverage
Many extended health plans cover Registered Clinical Counsellors — check yours
Start
Free 20-minute consultation
You don’t need to have it figured out to start.
“Something’s off and I don’t know what” is an honest place to begin.
And so is - “everything’s on fire.”
One conversation is usually enough to feel whether this fits. And if I’m not the right person, I’ll help you find who is.